Supporting Others

John Martin – Understanding Grief part 1

John discusses his understanding of what grief is

Grief & Ice Cream

When my wife of 18 years died in 2016, I became a single father missing the love of my life, and also had to learn how to raise two girls (13-17 at the time) on my own. I remember a conversation I had with my mother-in-law and oldest daughter that began as reminiscing over a person who became a lost love to all of us. We all talked about different aspects of my wife but shortly, it transformed into a “who meant more to her” fest.

Karyn and Aidan – Support.

Karyn and Aidan discuss how much the support they received helped

John – The power of journaling

John shares how journaling has helped him so much

John Martin – Loss and Grief- Make Sure You Hear Their Story

John about the importance of hearing a griever

Jim – Significant incidents

Jim discusses being involved in a significant incident and how it’s normal to feel overwhelmed and ruminate over it. You may even start to drink or use drugs to cope. But it’s important to remember that you’re not alone. Many police officers have been through similar experiences. And there are resources available to help you get through this.One of the best things you can do is talk to a trusted friend or colleague. They can offer support and understanding. You can also seek professional help from a therapist or counselor. They can help you to process your experience and develop healthy coping mechanisms. It’s also important to remember that you can’t change the past. But you can learn from it. And you can move on. Don’t let one incident define you. You are a strong and capable person. And you will get through this.

Nicole – Grieving as a community

Nicole discusses the power of grieving together as a community. Finding connection and trust.

Beauty found at the edges: a portrait of community support

I’d sent a text saying “Hello friends, I’m putting out a call for flowers. I went to public school with Kory, the young man who died in downtown Cobourg this week, and though I hadn’t seen him in recent years, I feel the loss of him on a community level, as I imagine you do, too. Some of Kory’s people are gathering tonight in vigil at the bank where he died, and I’m gathering flowers from those of us who have gardens to share with this grieving community. Do you have some blooms in your garden that you’d be willing to share?”

Donna – “Helping a grieving friend”

Donna shares some practical ways to help someone in grief.

Madelyn – Holding space

Madelyn explains how holding space can help anyone in grief

Matt – Telling my young son

Matt describes the death of his birth mother to his young son.

Janice – “The importance of listening”

Janice explains the importance of not being judgemental and listening when helping someone is in grief.